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 How to Lists

How to have a happy marriage, How to have a happy family, How to cook eggs, How to diagnose though google, how to get to where you want to go How to get to heaven, 

Some of us enjoy lists. we can follow along check off the boxes as well go and by the end we have accomplished some thing! 

From the last post I thought I would actually look up the top reasons marriages last long and happy

1, Communication skills

2, Gratitude Tell your spouse you are thankful for them

3, Make time as a couple ( Put your partner before the kids), Make time to enjoy each others company, maintain the friendship in your relationship.

4, Plan for personal time. Take care of yourself. eat healthy treat your body well, feel good in your own skin. Don't depend on your spouse to say you look nice to make you feel like you look nice. 

5, Build Trust

6, Learn to forgive. 

7. Its ok to disagree. 

8, I would add take time with God daily, and if your spouse is a believer, take time together before God daily. 

9. Don't fight when you are hungry ( Truth, tired or already in a bad mood from work)

10, Be willing to change ( YES, be teachable)

11, Prioritise your partners needs, if you know them cutos to you, better yet if they tell you when they change, or if you have a partner who no matter what you do it isn't good enough, you might want to have boundaries on how this will look in your relationship.

13, Accept your partner for who they are

14, learn how to compromise.

15, Be affectionate towards each other

16, End the night on a positive note

17, live in the moment

18 decompress together. Don't isolate it only builds walls

19, Get on the same page financially

20, learn to laugh at your self and the relationship

21, give each other space when needed, or seek professional help is ok too.

22. Realise you will fight. But don't live in the future.

23. Always kiss goodnight, or touch toes in bed, or hold hands walking to bed. Physical touch before or in bed builds safety and security within the relationship.

24. Be patient.

25. Know your a team no matter what. Whoever dropped the ball doesn't matter, the team comes around and helps solve the problem. 

26. Keep trying new things. Don't let your relationship grow stale. 

27, look good

28, Don't look for excuses to end things

29, Celebrate each other for no other reason than for them being them

30, make intimacy a priority outside of the bedroom. 

31, Learn to really apologize.

take the challenge try one of these a month ( well longer for the communication!) and see if any help your marriage get a little better!